“Therefore remember that once you, the Gentiles in the flesh, who are called “uncircumcision” by that which is called “circumcision” (in the flesh, made by hands), that you were at that time separate from Christ, alienated from the commonwealth of Israel, and strangers from the covenants of the promise, having no hope and without God in the world. But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off are made near in the blood of Christ. For he is our peace, who made both one, and broke down the middle wall of partition, having abolished in his flesh the hostility, the law of commandments contained in ordinances, that he might create in himself one new man of the two, making peace, and might reconcile them both in one body to God through the cross, having killed the hostility through it. He came and preached peace to you who were far off and to those who were near. For through him we both have our access in one Spirit to the Father. So then you are no longer strangers and foreigners, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and of the household of God, being built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the chief cornerstone; in whom the whole building, fitted together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord; in whom you also are built together for a habitation of God in the Spirit.
Ephesians 2:11–22 · Ephesians 2:19 (WEB) Ephesians 2 describes people once far away being brought near through Christ. They are no longer strangers but fellow citizens and members of God's household. Their place in the household begins with reconciliation, not usefulness.
We can carry an exhausting bargain into community: 'If I contribute enough, I will be allowed to stay.' Serving then becomes an attempt to secure acceptance. Paul gives us a different foundation: Christ is the cornerstone, and the people belong together because of Him.
Build from that foundation. Offer your gifts, but also allow yourself to receive care, ask a question and admit a limit. Healthy belonging makes room for mutual responsibility. Today, notice whether you are participating as a member of the household or trying to audition for a place that grace has already opened.